For years Peter Smith"s life was badly disturbed by the memory of an accident that caused the death of
one of his classmates, Oliver. His wife left him after six years of marriage. He 1 his work. Then suddenly
the news about Peter 2 .His wife came back and he found a new job.
One day he told me what had changed his life. "I used to think that nothing could call off what I had
done. The thought of my mistake would 3 me in the middle of a smile or a handshake. It put a 4
between my wife and me. Then I had a/an 5 visit from the person l was afraid most to see the mother
of the classmate who died. "Years ago," she said,"I found it in my heart to have forgiven (原谅)you. So did
Oliver and your friends."She paused, and then said 6 , "Peter, you are the one who hasn"t forgiven
yourself. Who do you think you are to stand out 7 the people around you and Cod?" I looked into her eyes
and found there a kind of permission to be the person I might have been 8 her boy had lived. For the first
time in my life I felt worthy to love and be loved."
It is only through forgiveness of our 9 that we gain the freedom to leam from experiences. But
forgiving our shortcomings doesn"t mean denying (否认) that they exist. Instead, it means 10 them
honestly, realistically.
Can a person be all-forgiving and still be human?A scientist I know spent four years as a slave labor in
Cermany. His parents, his younger sister and elder brother were killed by Nazi. This is a man who has every
reason to hate. Yet he is filled with a love of life that he passes on to everyone who knows him. He explained
it to me the other day, "In the beginning l was filled with hatred. 11 I realized that in hating I had become
my own 12 .Unless you forgive, you cannot love. And without love, life has no meaning."Forgiveness is
truly the saving grace, which gives the people who make mistakes a chance to correct them.