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How to apologize properly is much more difficult than we think. Provided you want to teach your children to apologize, you must be good at saying sorry yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky. If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: “I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology. Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done. Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not make any sense. These false apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not voice these false apologies. But even when presented with examples of really being sorry, children still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that taking the biscuit without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not. 小题1: If a mother adds “but” to an apology,________.A.the child may feel that he owes her an apology | B.she knows that the child has been hurt | C.the child may find the apology easier to accept | D.she feels that she should have apologized | 小题2:According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means “_______”.A.You have good reason to get upset | B.I apologize for hurting your feelings | C.I’m aware you’re upset , but I’m not to blame | D.I’m at fault for making you upset | 小题3: We learn from the last paragraph that iiS teaching children to say sorry A. the complexities involved should be ignored B. parents need to set them a good example C. their ages should be taken into account D parents should be patient and tolerant 小题4:It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is A. to say sorry in a general way | B. a way to improve your relationships | C. a sign of social progress and social harmony | D.not as simple as it seems |
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小题1:A 小题2:C 小题3:C 小题4:D |
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恰当地表示自己的歉意会比我们原来认为的更为困难,在文章中提出了几种无效的道歉行为,说明道歉并不像我们认为的那么简单。 小题1:A 【试题解析】推理题。根据文章第二段what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: “I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.可知你but后面的内容会让别人认为他们需要向你道歉以回应你的歉意。这不是一种真诚的道歉方式,也不会有很好的效果。故A正确。 小题2:C 【试题解析】推理题。根据文章第三段Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.可知说出“I’m sorry you’re upset”说明你认为对方的难受不是你的错。这也不是一种很有效的真诚的道歉的方式。故C正确。 小题3:C 【试题解析】推理题。根据最后一段中的A three-year-old 和A six-year-old以及A 12-year-old可知当我们向孩子道歉的时候,要考虑到他们的年龄,对于不同年龄的孩子要使用不同的道歉的方式。故C正确。 小题4:D 【试题解析】推理题。根据文章第一段How to apologize properly is much more difficult than we think. 可知恰当地表示自己的歉意会比我们原来认为的更为困难。接着在文章中提出了几种无效的道歉行为。说明本文说明道歉并不像我们认为的那么简单。故D正确。 【长难句解析】 How to apologize properly is much more difficult than we think. 【翻译】如何恰当地道歉要比我们认为地要更加困难。 【分析】本句的主语是“特殊疑问词+不定式” how to apologize properly;这个结构还可以在句中做主语,宾语,表语或定语。 |
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One of the most famous basketball players in the New Castle " s history was paralyzed(瘫痪的) in a wheelchair one day and was walking the next. Citizens of New Castle simply refer to it as " The Miracle" . Joel Haler woke up in his dorm room at Hope College last October totally paralyzed from the waist down. Four hospitals later, the only way he could walk was through Robotic Walking Treatment. "This past Tuesday ,I was doing the Robotic walk and lasted ten minutes, " Joel said. After that, he gave up. Joel w-anted to accept the inevitable (不可避免的事) and cancelled his next Robotic Walking Treatment appointment. Then , the night before his cancelled appointment, he woke up to a terrible pain. An hour and a half later ,the serious pain left him with an unusual feeling in his legs. " As it continued to move up my legs ,it became more and more painful and it took an hour and a half to reach my hips(臀部) , " Joel recalled. "I stood up and walked into my parents" room. " Mom and dad, look! " ," he said proudly. " He said something and I was like, " Joell Joel ! You " re walking ! You " re walking ! " We jumped out of bed , cried and hugged, " Joel " s mom Karen remembered. "I burst into tears. It " s hard seeing your son not be able to walk .but he was standing there , walking , " Joel " s father Eric said , tearfully. It was Thursday , January 23 , when he could finally walk. That date made perfect sense to Joel. He had dreamt of a calendar that only said "J 23 " . He didn"t know what to make of it until "a little boy at church ,four years old, came up to me and said, " you will walk on a Thurs-day " , " Joel recalled. So the 20-year-old college student, who could only walk with the aid of a robot on Tuesday ,was walking on his own. 小题1: According to the passage , " The Miracle" is that ________A.Joel Haler became the most famous basketball player | B.Robotic Walking Treatment could cure paralysis | C.Joel Haler could walk again after three months " paralysis | D.a paralyzed boy could play basketball well | 小题2: Which part of Joel Haler" s body didn"t work?A.His whole body. | B.His legs and feet. | C.His arms and hands. | D.His arms and legs. | 小题3:Before Joel Haler " s walking again , his attitude to the illness was ______.A.positive | B.indifferent | C.optimistic | D.hopeless |
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“Josie Metz’s father won’t live long enough to walk her down the aisle on her wedding day.But thanks to photographer Lindsey Villatoro,the 11-year-old girl was able to experience what it might be like anyway. Her father, Jim,62,had already been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer when he and his wife.Grace,hired Villatoro—a photographer.Two years ago,Villatoro began offering photography sessions for people with serious illnesses to document their journeys and was hired by the Metz family.”I try to really showcase(充分展示)the person for who they are and not the illness,”she told The Huffington Post during a phone conversation Tuesday afternoon. Villatoro went to Jim and Grace’s home for a shoot and offered to do one with their young daughter,Josie.After she left,she posted about the family on her website to get gift donations for the girl to help make her last birthday with her father memorable.But she decided to take a step further as a surprise and dreamed up the idea of a wedding for the girl—complete with,flowers,desserts,a promise ring and a dress from L.A.Fashion Week—so that her father could walk her down the aisle.” For today,appreciate those you love.Give them lots of hugs and be grateful they are in your life.You never know what can happen.Say more“I Love Yous”and show more appreciation for all of your friends and family.Appreciate the blessings you have.I"m going to hug my husband Rich more today,call my Dad,call my friend in NC,and give lots of kitty hugs to my pets.Hugs to all of you—I appreciate you all so much and am grateful to have you in my life every single Day! 小题1:Villatoro was hired by Josie’s parents to _______________.A.take care of them | B.treat Jim’s cancer | C.take photographs | D.fix Josie’s wedding | 小题2:What do we know about Josie’s father,Jim?A.He wants to attend Josie’s wedding. | B.He is fond of photography. | C.He had all idea of a wedding. | D.He suffered from cancel | 小题3:Villatoro posted about the family on her website to _____________.A.show her gratitude to her customers | B.collect birthday presents for the girl | C.raise money for people with illnesses | D.celebrate the poor girl’s last birthday | 小题4:What does the last paragraph mainly talk about?A.We should Treasure loved ones. | B.Blood is thicker than water. | C.Without love,nothing can go far. | D.Time and tide wait for no man. | 小题5:Which of the following best describes Villatoro?A.Talented and popular | B.Humorous and friendly | C.Intelligent and proud | D.Creative and helpfull |
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In 2012, I had just recovered form a serious illness when I received an invitation to a writer"s conference in Orlando, Florida. My family persuaded me that a(n) might be just what the doctor ordered, so off I . Arriving in the Sunshine State was rather tiring, but I to catch a taxi to my and settle in. Next morning, I took another to the shopping centre to buy a few souvenirs. I went to a cafe to have lunch, but all the tables were . Then I heard a friendly voice saying, "You can my table." I gratefully sat down with the lady and we had a happy lunch together. As the drew to a close she asked how long I would be in Orlando. I had already told her that I hadn"t a car, and hadn"t realised how taking taxis would he, After a while she said, "My dear, don"t use any more taxis. I"m retired and it would be my pleasure to you wherever you wish." I told her that I couldn"t put her to that ,but she brushed aside my protests (反对)。She asked me where I was and next morning she was waiting at my apartment at the time to take me to Disney World. She spent some time with me before leaving me to alone. At the end of the day, she to take me back to my accommodation. I her money but she refused to take any. I"ll never forget that wonderful lady who, through her , filled my brief holiday in Florida with wonderful memories.
小题1: | A.holiday | B.ceremony | C.operation | D.experiment |
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小题2: | A.kept | B.went | C.dropped | D.knocked |
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小题3: | A.intended | B.promised | C.managed | D.deserved |
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小题4: | A.hospital | B.company | C.university | D.accommodation |
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小题5: | A.colleague | B.passenger | C.suitcase | D.taxi |
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小题6: | A.Instead | B.First | C.Later | D.Once |
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小题7: | A.classified | B.occupied | C.decorated | D.painted |
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小题8: | A.share | B.reserve | C.set | D.possess |
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小题9: | A.old | B.poor | C.innocent | D.stubborn |
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小题10: | A.journey | B.meal | C.speech | D.interview |
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小题11: | A.donated | B.repaired | C.hired | D.guided |
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小题12: | A.convenient | B.worthwhile | C.unfortunate | D.expensive |
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小题13: | A.inspire | B.entertain | C.call | D.drive |
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小题14: | A.business | B.argument | C.trouble | D.challenge |
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小题15: | A.working | B.staying | C.moving | D.shopping |
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小题16: | A.appointed | B.limited | C.favourite | D.regular |
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小题17: | A.digest | B.explore | C.perform | D.calculate |
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小题18: | A.forgot | B.refused | C.returned | D.preferred |
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小题19: | A.sent | B.lent | C.offered | D.owed |
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小题20: | A.confidence | B.dignity | C.curiosity | D.kindness |
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The Fitting-in of Suzy Khan The first time I saw Suzy Khan, I knew I had to help her. She was really small for her age of 12. The boy in my class often about her and laughed their heads off. She would open a book, pretending to read, with tears dropping on the open page. All I knew was that she was an orphan (孤儿) from Africa. She had just been adopted by a family in town who that the best way for her to learn American ways of life was to be with american kids. I looked down at this girl and promised myself that somehow I would help her. But how could I help her in with us? There had to be a . One day, when I went into the classroom, I saw that Suzy had her geography book to a picture of a train, and in her notebook, she had made a(n) copy. I was surprised and thought that she could do something in the coming show. So, I took her to see the art teacher, Miss Parker, and showed her what Suzy had . “why, it’s wonderful,” said Miss Parker, who then showed us a poster she had painted the talent show. “I need more of these, but I just don’t have enough . Could you help me, Suzy?” On the day of the talent show, Suzy’s were everywhere ---- all over the hall and all over the school, each one different. “And finally,” said Mr Brown, the schoolmaster, at the end of the show, “we have a (n) award. I’m sure you’ve all noticed the wonderful posters.” Everyone nodded. “One of our own students them.” I could hear everyone whispering. “Who in our school could draw well?” Mr. Brown waited a while before saying, “ this student worked so hard on the posters, she deserves a ,too. Our mystery(神秘) artist is our new student ---- Suzy Khan!” Mr. Brown thanked her for all the wonderful posters and gave her a professional artist’s set. “Thank you,” she cried. I , at that time when I was looking at her excited face, she’d probably never anything in her whole life. Everyone started to their hands. Suzy Khan gave them a shy smile and the applause was defening. I knew then Suzy was going to ne all right.
小题1: | A.joked | B.cared | C.trains | D.worried |
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小题2: | A.reported | B.decided | C.complained | D.questioned |
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小题3: | A.rich | B.proud | C.tiny | D.popular |
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小题5: | A.manner | B.pattern | C.choice | D.way |
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小题6: | A.read | B.taken | C.opened | D.put |
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小题7: | A.free | B.perfect | C.final | D.extra |
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小题8: | A.are | B.talk | C.quiz | D.talent |
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小题9: | A.colored | B.written | C.carved | D.drawn |
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小题11: | A.room | B.time | C.paper | D.interest |
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小题12: | A.gifts | B.books | C.photos | D.posters |
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小题13: | A.special | B.academic | C.national | D.rayal |
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小题14: | A.painted | B.found | C.printed | D.collected |
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小题16: | A.If | B.Though | C.Unless | D.Since |
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小题17: | A.prize | B.rank | C.rest | D.place |
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小题18: | A.replied | B.realized | C.remembered | D.regretted |
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小题19: | A.offered | B.valued | C.owned | D.controlled |
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小题20: | A.clap | B.wave | C.raise | D.shake |
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The Brown Bear My wife Laura and I were on the beach, with three of our children, taking pictures of shore birds near our home in Alaska when we spotted a bear. The bear was thin and small, moving aimlessly. Just a few minutes later, I heard my daughter shouting, “Dad! The bear is right behind us!” An agreesive bear will usually rush forward to frighten away its enemy but would suddenly stop at the last minute. This one was silent and its ears pinned back---- the sign (迹象) of an animal that is going in for the kill. And it was a cold April day. The bear behaved abnormally, probably because of hunger. I held my camera tripod (三脚架) in both hands to form a barrier as the bear rushed into me. Its huge head was level with my chest and shoulders, and the tripod stuck across its mouth. It bit down and I found myself supporting its weight. I knew I would not be able to hold it for long. Even so, this was a fight I had to win: I was all that stood between the bear and my family, who would stand little chance of running faster than a brown bear. The bear hit at the camera, cutting it off the tripod. I raised my left arm to protect my face; the beast held tightly on the tripod and pressed it into my side. My arm could not move, and I sensed that my bones were going to break. Drawing back my free hand, I struck the bear as hard as I could for five to six times. The bear opened its mouth and I grasped its fur, trying to push it away. I was actually wrestling (扭打) with the bear at this point. Then, as suddenly as it had begun, the fight ended. The bear moved back toward the forest, before returning for another attack----- The first time I felf panic. Apparently satisfied that we caused no further threat, the bear moved off, destroying a fence as it went. My arm was injured, but the outcome for us could hardly have been better. I’m proud that my family reminded clear-headed when panic could have led to a very different outcome. 小题1:The brown bear approached the family in order to _______.A.catch shore birds | B.start an attack | C.protect the children | D.set up a barrier for itself | 小题2:The bear finally went away after it _______.A.felt safe | B.got injured | C.found some food | D.took away the camera | 小题3:The writer and his family survived mainly due to their ______ .A.pride | B.patience | C.calmness | D.cautiousness |
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